I had a birthday in February and it was a big day for me.
See, in my entire 33 years of life, I have NEVER dyed my hair. Not a highlight, lowlight or touch of color has ever been on my hair.
However, I finally needed to bite the bullet and color my hair because the grays were a little too evident (not knocking those with gray hair, I just wasn’t ready for that yet). So, I decided to do some subtle highlights to help blend the grays. It was such a big deal for me!
But guess what?!? No one noticed. Seriously, even my kids were like “It looks the same mom”. I really think my own mom would not have noticed if I hadn’t told her. My husband noticed but honestly I am not sure if he really did or just gave me the reaction he knew I wanted since he knew I was coloring it that day and it was a big deal to me.
I was expecting this big reaction from people because it was a big deal to me and honestly, I was a little disappointed that no one saw it.
The same happened when I bought a leopard print shrug. It was a BIG deal to me because usually I tend to wear pretty neutral clothing that does not stand out. I am not a fan of being the center of attention but I wanted to nudge myself out of my comfort zone and so I bought it.
What was a big deal to me was not to anyone else and I got sad. I started to feel silly for the things that were big to me.
And then I realized, it is still big to me and I need to celebrate that and not expect others to do the celebrating for me.
I got out of my comfort zone with my hair and my outfit and challenged myself in ways I have not before.
That change, while small to some, was big for me.
The same may be true for you.
Maybe saying your affirmations daily for a week or starting a morning routine are a big deal to you.
We don’t need others to affirm our growth or change for it to be big to us. We don’t need others to notice for what we are doing for it to be important. Even if no one notices your increased confidence or your sense of peace, it is still just as big of a deal!
NEVER downplay the progress you make because others don’t notice. It is just as important, even if no one else sees it.
You are working hard and your growth is important.
You are worth it!
If you have not already, check out the blog post about celebrating your wins here.
I recently was pulling the weeds in my front yard and the weeds were so bad I couldn’t see my own feet. Seriously, check out the picture....
It was awful and overwhelming. I procrastinated tackling it for many weeks because the thought of all of the work that needed to be done completely crippled me. But, eventually the pain of seeing the weeds was too much and I finally began the arduous process.
As I started making progress, I could start to see my feet (and the rocks) better but it took a lot of freaking work to finally only see my feet and the rocks. I am not talking ten minutes, I mean hours and hours spread out over many weeks (the weeds were REALLY bad).
As I progressed, seeing parts of the yard clear of weeds motivated me to do more and more. I started to believe I could really clean my yard of the weeds.
When I was finally done, I was so relieved! My yard looked pretty again and I had accomplished a HUGE task that had been weighing on me.
As I was pulling the weeds, I was convicted about how often I get overwhelmed by what needs to get done that I end up doing nothing at all. I become paralyzed by the big picture instead of breaking it into little chunks.
In all honesty, this happened to me with more than the weeds recently. In the fall I had decided that I needed to create a course on anxiety. I saw so many women struggling with anxiety and wanted to provide them relief because they do not have to be crippled by their anxiety. There are tools that will help! But, the thought of creating a course felt so overwhelming. So…. I procrastinated and procrastinated. Then, after Christmas I decided I couldn’t put it off any more.
So, what did I do?
I broke into smaller tasks.
First, I gave myself a month to create a detailed outline so I knew what each module would look like. I also scheduled and filmed an amazing yoga video exclusively for the course (don’t worry, I am not in the video, a professional yoga instructor is).
The next month, I worked on the workbook (which is really thorough and I am so excited for you to see it!).
From there, I recorded the videos and got ready for launch day!
While it seemed overwhelming looking at the big picture, when I broke it into smaller steps, it wasn’t so overwhelming.
You can do the same thing too! What is something you have been procrastinating because it feels too overwhelming? Maybe it is decluttering your house, starting a new business or planning for a big event. Whatever it is, take a deep breath. You can do this.
First, create a deadline for the big picture to be completed.
Then work backwards. What needs to be done by the deadline? Break it up into small sections and assign a realistic timeframe for it to be done with each task building off of the last. Often, I find that people break apart what needs to be done but still have too big of chunks so you may need to break up each section into even smaller sections so it is easier to accomplish.
Before you know it, you will on your way to accomplishing your goal. You’ve got this!
If you are as excited as I am about my NEW course, The Courage To Confront Anxiety-A holistic guide to anxiety treatment, sign up here NOW!
This guide will break down anxiety treatment in small sections that are easy to digest so that you can ditch the anxiety and embrace peace.
You are worth it!
Jocelyn is a Licensed Professional Counselor and course creator who desires to help clients heal and grow into who God created them to be.